Sos Before Bolz

For almost three years now, I have been married to a man who was never my type in the first place. Sorry, Nico! Looking back in the past eight years we have been together, there were times the relationship would have never worked. But with enough hard work and trust, we have written #SosBolz in our stars.

Before I met Nico, my heart was onto something else. I wasn't looking for love or longing for a relationship because I was too busy navigating the world of the Philippines show business. Falling in love was not my priority.

As someone who doesn't really plan her life, entering show business was also far from my mind. I was just going with the flow, but pursuing the arts have always given me joy.

I was about 25 when I got a surprise that eventually changed the course of my life. No, this is not about you, Nico. Well, not yet... I was fresh from Paris, France where I studied makeup after breaking up with my boyfriend back then (ex-boyfriend, as Nico stressed). I was enjoying the life behind the lens working with actresses for their fashion editorials and cover shoots. Then, I was pushed into show business all because of a dare.

A friend encouraged me that I should join the celebrity edition of a reality show in the Philippines, pointing out that her brother was the host. First, I'm not a celebrity, so why would I even join? And, second, I don't speak the language, like zero. I replied.

But ultimately I decided to join as I didn't want to back down on my friends' challenge. So I was in it all for fun--no showbiz career in sight. I went to the network and had an interview.

Then, I went to the United States for a music festival. That was when I received the text message saying that I made it to the show. Sh*t! How do I back out of this? Oh my gosh, this is really happening.

I did join the show to my boss' encouragement. I eventually became part of the top three finalists. I did not win the grand prize, but the showbiz offers started pouring in once we got out of the island. Still, I needed a bit of nudge. I can simply go back to my life before, pursuing the arts. But my dad eventually convinced me to give the projects a try.

"You know, you're not losing anything. If you like it, then you're lucky because so many people want to enter showbiz and striving to be actors. It's just given to you. If you don't like it, you have your job and your career'," he said. And he was right. Thank goodness I listened to him.

Before meeting me, Nico's life revolved around his work for many years. His decisions, including the possibility of connecting to women romantically, were mostly based on his work. He used to work as an analyst for a company that required him to stay in one country only for six months at the most before heading to his next stop.

While he dated around, it was impossible to start a serious relationship because he never intended to stay in a place for more than six months. He knew he was leaving so he never intended to invest heavily in a serious relationship.

"Put it this way, I was never a good boy with girls before. I never mistreated a girl. But I never wanted to be in a relationship. So sometimes, what happens is, if I was dating a girl, she would misunderstand my intentions and think it was more serious than it actually was," Nico once told me.

Why would they misunderstand?

Well, other guys who are not into serious relationships would play around, knowing they have no intentions of taking the relationship seriously. But Nico was not like them.

Even if he was not serious with the relationship, he would still treat the girl like a girlfriend. Nico would open the door for them and bring them flowers. He was a gentleman. He still is! So, girls misinterpreted those little gestures and believe he was really into them. Don't worry, I can relate! That's one of the reasons why I married him. The little gestures, they do count.

With my commitments as a showbiz newcomer and as he prepares for his next stop, we were not exactly looking for the one.

Things took a different turn when Nico and I ran into each other in 2011. #