Chapter 6 Supper & Discussion

at the Heaton's summer 1638

John's POV

I arrived at Nathaniel and Elizabeth Heaton's home at 6 PM. I brought a small bag of clothing in case I stayed the night.

I knocked at the door, and I was greeted by the whole family. Mr. and Mrs. Heaton, their little children, Jabez, Leah, Mary and Eleanor, and my beloved, Mary.  Mary looked like she worked hard today in her servant's uniform. She approached me and said, "Hi Love, I am sorry.  I am not dressed up, but Mrs. Heaton wanted me to slave over the fire for you. I cooked the whole meal. I hope you like it." she said biting her lip. I thought it was adorable. I whispered in her ear, "I do not care what you look like. I am glad you spent the time to cook me your meal. I am sure it is prepared with lots of love. Right?" She nodded. I said, "I love you no matter what you wear." She whispered, "I love you too. Come on, let us go sit at the table".

They all greeted me and made me feel welcome. We all sat around the table, bowed their heads, and blessed the meal. We thanked God for his mighty provision, his grace, and asked him to bless the hands that prepared the food.

We all started to eat. It was a meal of fish stew with a side of mashed pumpkin, homemade bread, butter, ale, and a dessert of blueberry cakes. It was delicious. I complemented Mary, "This was so delicious. Mary, you can cook for me any time. I loved it. Thank you!" Everyone at the table agreed. Mary looked down at the table with a humble look and said, "Thank you everyone! When the children were finished, they were sent to bed because the discussion at the table would not be appropriate for them to hear.

Nathaniel remembered John from their ship voyage. He recalled that he was a reflective man. He had big dreams. He wanted to settle and have children. He was a God-fearing man even though he was not Puritan, he was Christian.

Nathaniel told John about being a shop keeper, and his role as one of the elders in the church. He was able to attend private discussions with senior members every Sunday.

Nathaniel asked John, "What are your intentions towards Nurse, Mary?"

John answered, "I would like to court her and marry very soon because we have been seeing each other once a week, and we love each other."

Nathaniel said that there should be no problem with getting approval for marriage because their stations are similar and that John is able to provide for her. They can marry for love because neither of them is upper class. (Most marriages in the upper class are arranged by the father of the bride. Most of the time there is a benefit for the father such as money to keep his daughter's standard of living. They do not marry for love, but they will not force their daughter to marry a choice she does not like. The young man usually had wealth, business, or property to make him marriage material for the upper crust.)

Nathaniel also mentioned that the church thought of a marriage as a business contract, and it was a civil affair verses a sacrament. 

There were steps in which to follow to get married.

1. They were to get married within a month.

2. They would have to post banns three times and attend three town assemblies after posting each of the banns. The bride would put her favorite wedding Bible verses on the first announcing their betrothal. The people would meet the couple at each meeting and would ask questions to make sure they were compatible and suited for one another. They would get approval at each meeting. Once they get all three approvals, they will have a wedding soon after.

3. They will court during this month.

Nathaniel gave him required activities:

1. You and Mary must attend every church service and activity together.

2. You both must read the Bible and pray together every day.

3. You both need to eat meals together.

4. This requires a lot for self-discipline."He said with a tight smile, "You will sleep in the guest bed for threeweeks, then on the week before your wedding, you will move to her bed. Therewill be a board separating you. You cannot touch her, but you may talk to eachother and kiss good night. While some households allow intimate relationsduring bundling, we do not allow it because it against religious beliefs."

John gave a sigh of relief and wiped the sweat off his brow when he heard thisinformation. He responded clearly to Nathaniel, his wife and Mary, " Itotally respect this. I want my future wife to remain pure until our weddingnight. Intimate relations should be done in the marriage bed. It is a sin tofornicate before marriage. Family is important and it is our duty to havechildren. When God blesses us with children, it will be because of our lovemaking in marriage. As far as bundling, Mary and I will participate with theboard in place, fully dressed in night dress, and self-restraint. I am sure shedoes not want her virtue compromised and get with child before marriage. I knowI do not. As far as all the other requirements, I agree to it all."

Nathaniel says, "Great! Since it is late, you should stay the night in theguest room, and tomorrow you can move in. I would rather keep you here at nightsince there is a high threat from the Natives in the area."

John responded, "Thank you, I will do that. Also, I need assistance infinding a location for my tailoring shop. I have a lot of supplies, tools, andmaterials to move. I would also like to offer my services to your family inlieu of board. I would also pay the rest of Mary's debt, so she can be free tolive with me when I get my dwelling built. William gifted me a dwelling andmoney for my shop when I was freed. 

Nathan responds with excitement, " Great I could use some new breeches andundergarments."

Elizabeth said, " I am thankful for Mary's help with the delivery and careof my children. She has been a great help. We will free her on the day of yourwedding. We hope that she can come and help once in a while because we areplanning to have more children since we have been trying to have one for awhile now."

John says, " That's fine, Mary do you agree to everything that has beendiscussed?"

"Yes, I do. I agree that the bundling idea is a little startling, but Itrust you will stick to your words. "As she sent John a glance."Elizabeth, I can continue to help you but if I am increasing, then itwill be hard. I plan on starting a family right away after the wedding. I willhelp until then."

John mentioned that he was tired, so they all said, "Goodnight!" Marywas asked to take John to his room. She told him that she was shocked about allthese steps, but he told her to not worry. He would help her with everything.They would discuss the dress tomorrow after he moves in. They were so happy.They looked at each other and had a passionate kiss that caused Mary to runflustered to her room...

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There was a lot of information in this chapter. I read many articles on the courting and marriage practices of the Puritans. The bundling concept was shocking. Over half of the betrothed girls in this time period in New England were pregnant before their wedding. I would not allow these characters do that because it is a sin. John would be highly influenced by the Hutchinson's and his taught values that he would not jeopardize Mary's reputation and sin. 

The next chapter will be courtship/ betrothal.

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