School creep

I'll try to keep this short, although there are quite a number of things that happened over these two years that I'd like to share. So here it goes.

I was 16, starting a new school. It's a tiny one, our entire year group consisted of 30 people, and there were two year groups. The start of my time there was great fun and I quickly became friends with two guys, who I'll call Friend A and Friend B. We always sat together, did our external project together and just hung out outside of school. I was always closer to Friend A, as Friend B gave me weird vibes. He just seemed a bit sly and I never felt I could fully trust him.

But anyway, Friend B was quite into game design, and we made a deal in which if he showed me how to use a digital art software, I would design a character for his game. So he came around one evening after school and he showed me the software and I got on with drawing the character I promised him. I was at my laptop at my table and he was sat on my bed making his game on his laptop. We're just chatting and he starts asking me quite personal questions. Not anything I'm unwilling to talk about, but as I said, I never felt good about this guy so I wasn't as open with him. I just give short basic answers, until without prompt, he opens my drawer and starts going through my stuff. Like what the hell?

I didn't keep anything super secret there, just chargers, pens, whatever else. But there was a box in there, containing a half used rubber and a piece of paper with some shitty joke on it. Nothing secret, but they were items that reminded me of my friends from before I left my home country. I told him he can't open that box, simply because going through my stuff is a breach of my privacy to begin with, but that box was personal to me, despite it literally having and eraser and a piece of paper in it. And HE WOULD NOT STOP asking me about that box, joking that I keep condoms in it or something, and it annoyed me quite a bit. Then he stated that he was staying the night and I should join him in bed. I was by that point super uncomfortable, so I said I'd carry on with designing his character. I stayed up all night just on my laptop because there was no way I was gonna get in the bed with him.

I was so disgusted and shocked by his behaviour that I wouldn't even sleep in my bed until my mum washed the sheets. I slept on my beanbag with a blanket I stole from my sister for about a week.

But life went on, we stayed as a kind of trio with Friend A, B and me, even though I wasn't too keen on Friend B. He just started acting creepy.

One time I was walking to get lunch with him, and he asked me what my breast size was. I'd like to point out that I am trans, female to male, and I wear a binder to flatten my chest as much as possible. This may just make this whole situation sound even worse, but I get questions like this all the time. I am always happy to answer them. People don't like what they don't understand so I'm always willing to answer any question. And if anyone else had asked me that, I would not have thought twice about answering this one. But he didn't ask out of the general curiosity that others have when asking me these things, like he was just thinking about my breasts and wanted to know more about them. I was creeped out but told him anyway.

I'd catch him staring at them a number of times after that. He looked for like 20 seconds not realising I was fully aware of this. Then when he realised I caught him, he just said "I like your shirt". It was a black shirt with the Star Wars logo on it. Nothing worth staring at.

One time he lifted up my necklace, complimented it, then as he put it back, he ran his hand down my body. He'd always hug me after school when we were saying our goodbyes, which was not something we did before, neither was it something I did with anyone else.

Then in class, he literally stroked my thigh under the table. I didn't want to cause a scene, so I just referenced that vine where it's a voiceover of a cat slapping a dog and it goes like "did you just touch me? Don't ever touch me again." It was a vine I referenced quite often and I did it in the same voice as well. Then he was like "whoa it's not that big a deal, don't be so sensitive" etc. I told him it was a reference and he needs to chill. He kept going on about it though, to the point where I had to apologise to him because he touched me. He was always very good at manipulating people.

Some of you may be wondering why I didn't do anything about all of this. Quite honestly, while he did make me uncomfortable, I thought he just had a crush on me and it would go away soon. Which it kind of did, as Friend A and I drifted away from him as time passed an joined a different friendship group.

Fast forward to near the end of the two years at that school, and I walk into the common where a group of 6 girls are having a conversation about him. I sat down, expecting some juicy gossip, and boy did I get some.

It had turned that throughout the two years, he had made EVERY SINGLE GIRL in the year group uncomfortable in some way. Whether it was staring, making comments or full on touching them, everyone had a story. Even the guys that played online games with him. Saying how he'd always make the female players uncomfortable, and people who used to be friends with him in his old school said he'd acted like this there too. Because it was a small year group, word spread fast and Friend B soon became the meme of the year. The room would go quiet when he walked in and no one really spoke to him.

But then, since it was already a known fact that he is an absolute creep, it soon also came out that he tried to get the shy girl of the year to book a hotel room with him. So at that point we wrote an email to the office, explaining each individual instance of him being weird. 13 people shared their story in that email. 13 people. In a year group of 30. That is literally every single girl.

The head set up a meeting with him, which he never turned up to. This was already during our exams, and he managed to avoid every single meeting up until the year finished. The head told us that the year is over and there is nothing else that she can do. It bothers me so much how he got away with all of this. No consequences whatsoever. I feel sorry for any girl that will be in his university class. It's crazy to think people like this exist and think their behaviour is acceptable. I hope he gets the help he needs.

TLDR: Creep in my school had sexually harrassed evry single girl in my year group and got away with it.