Emotional

I (20F) had been in a long-distance relationship with a boy, Roy, when I was 17. Roy told me he was my age when we started talking. Then I found out thanks to his mom that he was actually 2 years younger than me.

But first I'll describe how everything started.

I met Aaron on Facebook through a gaming group. We really got on well and chatted for a while. I was 14 at the time. After a few months, I received a friend request from Roy, and we only had one friend in common, which was Aaron. I talked to Aaron about it and he said that they were friends, yes, but not that much. He said Roy could be really awful sometimes and he didn't have too much to do with him. Anyway, I accepted his request and we started talking and we were on really good terms. He was funny, kind, and that's when he told me he was 14, just like me.

Both Aaron and Roy lived in a city 3 hours away from me. One day we found an occasion to meet at a convention and I had a lot of fun! Soon after though Aaron confessed to me and told me he liked me but I couldn't reciprocate his feelings so we just stopped talking. I then vented to Roy about it, I showed him my weaknesses, I gave him my trust, and as time went on, we became great friends. At times we didn't talk for some months because long-distance friendships are difficult, and then, when my 17th birthday came, it happened.

Roy told me he had a crush on me and wanted to see me. I, too, had some feelings for him so I decided I'd give it a shot, since I'd never had a long-distance relationship. Things after that were going super good. At least once a month we would meet and have fun, just the two of us. Four months passed, and I decided it was time I presented him to some of my friends. That's when things started getting weird. He told me he didn't want to, that he was shy and that he wouldn't talk because of it. I didn't want to insist or anything but whenever we met his friends I tried my best to be as talkative as possible and to just get along with them, so I thought he would do the same. Somehow he managed to hang out with some of my friends one day and he never talked. Not even once. At this point I'm just in disbelief. My friends are very chill and always tried to involve him in conversations, to not make him feel excluded. But he refused to talk to anyone and barely greeted them when we met. I tried to leave that behind me, but then a lot of red flags started popping.

At the time I used Facebook a lot and I would tag my best friend, Michael, in the comment section of a lot of memes, and so did he. It was our thing and we had fun with it. Roy noticed it one day and sent me screenshots of EVERY post I tagged Michael and started calling me a cunt, a bitch, that I was cheating on him and that I loved my best friend. I called him and told him to calm down and somehow we sorted things out. Apparently his first girlfriend cheated on him and that stuck with him. I get it, but you still shouldn't lash out like this on your actual girlfriend which ISN'T cheating on you. That's what I said.

Then, as time went on, it got even worse. I found out he wasn't actually 17 and we had a fight about it. He never told me why he lied. Then, whenever I was going out with friends on the weekend he'd stop messaging me. I asked him 'What's going on?' and he would always reply 'Nothing'. He even blocked me, more than once!

One time I posted a picture when later I had a night out with some friends and an anonymous account said things like "you're disgusting, bitch, cunt, go kill yourself". I later found out that it was, of course, Roy.

I was getting tired of how things were going so one day I decided to meet him in person and I told him I wanted to break up. He just stood there, didn't say anything, and then left. I went back home since there wasn't anything left to say. Then, in the middle of the night, he called me and he told me he was going to kill himself with a rope. He had also sent me like a 1000 messages (I swear maybe there were more) and my phone was constantly freezing because of it. He told me if I didn't get back with him he would kill himself. I hung the call and rushed to my mom, in tears, and told her everything. About his jealousy, about his unhealthy behaviour whenever I did something with someone who wasn't him, about the fact that he was literally text-storming me whenever I had to study and told him we would talk later. All of it.

My mom (who was really, really angry) called Roy's mom and told her that his son was harassing me, telling me he would kill himself. She went to check on him and he was just laying in bed watching videos on YouTube. He wasn't truthful even then. He never was. He always told me lies just to manipulate me, and that thing, it almost broke me. It was hard to go on in life because I had trust issues for a long time and had difficulties trusting anyone. After our breakup, I kept receiving insults from private accounts and also his friends would text me and tell me the most disgusting things. I just felt nauseous.

After three years from that experience, I've healed, I've grown and am now in a beautiful relationship with the best person ever, and I couldn't be happier.

So to Roy who tried to break me but didn't, let's not meet.