Chapter Fourty nine

Honeymoon over

Laura said "I miss us, should we go back to our honeymoon."

Jakes said "we can't stay on vacation forever, this is our reality that we are struggling as husband and wife now."

Laura said "do you still want to be married, you don't look happy and you're only happy when you are with your friend's some of them I haven't meet."

Jakes said "whose fault is it, when I want you to meet them I'm busy, always work and work with you."

Laura said "why would I go out with you and your friends, when you tell them I'm a horrible wife."

Jakes said "if you just do what I tell you, you will be a good wife and stop disrespecting me."

Laura said "unbelievable, respect you for what do you respect me, trying to control me, "just do what I want Laura "I'm tired of you jakes I won't keep taking this from you and praying to God to be good wife to you while you're a horrible husband."

Jakes said "walk away that's what you do."

Laura said "I'm not walking away jakes Smith."

Jakes said "I'm sorry love."

Laura said "I'm sorry too this is not working any more jakes something has to change."

They decided to go to counselling now as married couple should be interesting.

Couple Counselling

First week

Learning to be a submissive wife.

Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the lord

Ephesians 5:23

Laura said" he wants to win every arguments and be right all the time."

Jakes said "I'm the husband here, she wants to wear the pants be the man in this relationship."

Second week

Power of forgiveness

Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.

Colossians 3: 13

Jakes said "she can't let go of stuff we have to relive it over and over, I apologize why can't we move on?"

Laura said "like is that simple when you keep saying or doing the same thing. "

Jakes said "I didn't realise you were counting how many times I messed up, you think you are so perfect I forgive you when you hurt my feelings I don't hold it against you."

Third week

Temptation

When you don't feel appreciated

When tempted, no one should say, 'God is tempting me. 'For God cannot be tempted by evil, nor does he tempt anyone.

James 1: 13

Laura said "he doesn't tell me I'm beautiful, he use to make me feel special loved, most beautiful woman in the world now I don't feel like it."

Jakes said "you are beautiful woman, my woman, my wife you know that I love you. "

Laura said " do you show it, I went out to get wigs I wear wigs , for you jakes , put on makeup try new fragrances still you didn't see me, notice me wanting your attention should I beg for it."

Jakes said "I don't know where this is coming from."

Laura said "I just want you to see me, the woman that loves you, when last did you buy me gifts take me out on a date, and spend time with me."

Jakes said "stuff gets in the way babe, I'm a father I see you, and the smart beautiful woman I married, strong and caring."

Laura said "I just want to feel loved by my husband, not stranger's out there making me feel appreciated and loved, special."

Jakes said "what strangers Laura?"

Laura said "Men isn't that obvious, who keep telling me I'm gorgeous and that if I was their wife would treat me like a queen. They are people out there who want to treat me better than you do and make me feel special."

Jakes said "how do I respond to that?"

Laura said "I'm telling you that I'm tempted daily and it is hard to stay faithful to someone who doesn't appreciate you. "

Jake's said " so I'm responsible for your feelings, you feeling unloved, unhappy and not appreciated, also being tempted. I don't think so love."

Week 5 it was about learning to have boundaries, not blame your partner about how you feel, taking responsibility for your own feelings, thoughts and actions.