Jealousy

Jealousy is an emotion, either unhappy or angry about wanting to have what someone else has. We, individuals, feel jealous, and it is normal.

We feel jealous when:

· A person perceives a threat to a valued relationship from a third party.

· Flirting with your girlfriend/boyfriend

· Someone achieves something that you hate succeeds.

· Someone manages to get something, and you think that he/she doesn't deserve it.

Jealousy is also called envy. It occurs when a person will say, "I want what you have," and I mean that's the line of a super spoiled person. Jealousy can be painful, but it is bearable, according to a Psychologist.

Mainly there are four main roots of jealousy, and those are:

· Lack of self-confidence, you feel down, or you degrade yourself because you are doubting your abilities, you won't degrade yourself if you are confident enough with yourself.

· Poor self-image, if you believe that you are ugly or you don't like what you look and when you see someone handsome or pretty, then jealousy will take over.

· Fear, the saddest part because it can be a fear of ending up alone, being rejected, or fear of losing your loved ones.

· Insecurity because you are jealous of someone.

I have my experiences of being jealous. The first time I feel jealous is during my childhood. I feel jealous of my cousin because she has everything, toys, and gadgets that I wish I have, but then I realized that even if she has everything, there is still something missing from her that I have, that's when I overcome my jealousy towards her. Second, is in the present time, during my college days, but I consider her as my best friend. I felt kind of jealous because she is better than me in some ways. It is my first time that someone is better than me, but I overcome it because I told myself that I'm better than her, I can do much better than her, I have the abilities that she doesn't have. I have many experiences of being jealous, but I always remind myself that I'm the best among the rest, and I'm confident about myself.

Jealousy is somewhat dangerous because that person will invade your privacy. For example, in a relationship, it can result in inappropriate behavior, it's like they don't have trust in you, just like in movies, they are very obsessed that they want to find out if you are hiding something.

I have eight tips to lessen your jealousy:

· Refrain from your jealousy and try to realize and banish it. It is hard, but you need to.

· Have trust if you are in a relationship or you have friends because we all know that we sometimes have trust issues.

· Give each other freedom because sometimes in a relationship, we don't give freedom to the person. It's like you're being possessive like in a Wattpad story.

· Open up about your feelings of jealousy towards the person, and they will understand why you are like that.

· Know and realize what you're doing is wrong.

· Write your jealousy in your journal. It is effective to lessen your jealousy. It works because that's what I do.

· Focus on the good side

· Stop holding grudges in your jealousy, instead, let it out.

Jealousy can be bearable, but it can be dangerous sometimes if you can't control it. If you are not happy or satisfied with your life, you want the life of other people, then jealousy will attack. Sometimes we feel jealous also if our parents will discuss how good that person is. Jealousy is an insecurity, a weakness, and an obsession. If you are confident enough, you are satisfied with your life and self, then you don't have to be jealous. Keep in mind that you are better than the rest. You stand out from others, and you have unique abilities that they don't have. We are different. Just be that person and be the best version of yourself.