LOSING CONTROL

PHARSES:

"Violence against women continues to grow during the quarantine. Wasn't it because we were alone at night? For hanging out with strangers? Assaults, robberies, collisions, and kidnappings fell, but women continue to be killed and it is increasing. Now, what is the motive? "

"The abusers are always asking for forgiveness; but, they maintain the same pattern of domination, control, abuse, and harassment, subjecting their partner to submission and fear"

"Silence is lethal in the mistreatment of women. Dare, be brave and denounce the aggressor."

"This body is mine, it is not touched, it is not raped, it is not killed."

"Break the silence. When you witness violence against women, do not stand idly by. Take action." Ban Ki-moon, former UN Secretary-General, invites us to react when we see an attack on a woman.

"Violence creates more social problems than it solves." Although Martin Luther King is well known for his racial struggle, his phrase can be applied to the fight against gender violence and, by extension, to any type of violence.

"Our men believe that making money and giving orders is the basis of power. They do not believe that power is in the hands of a woman who takes care of everyone during the day and gives birth." Pakistani activist Malala Yousafzai has had to emigrate under threat for leading the fight for women's rights in her country, Pakistan.

"Enough of minutes of fear, humiliation, pain, silence. We have the right that every minute be of freedom, of happiness, of love, of life. (Campaign not one less) "

"Faced with the atrocities we have to take sides. Silence stimulates the executioner (Elie Wiesel) "

"Any time of the day or night is good to say enough and put an end to a stage of your life that you would have liked not to live (Raimunda de Peñafort)"

The renowned judge and writer Raimunda de Peñafort, expressed to us in this sentence, the need for the appearance of the moment when the victim decides that it is necessary to change and end her torment.

"Neither saints nor whores. We are only women (Rotmi Enciso) "

"No man is good enough to rule any woman without her consent (Susan Anthony)"

"This irrational desire for dominance, control, and power over the other person is the main force that fuels domestic violence between couples (Luis Rojas Marcos)"

"Walling up your suffering is to risk being devoured from the inside (Frida Kahlo)"

Although the phrase in question does not refer to abuse, it does express a very common reality among people who suffer from it: hiding and burying the suffering deep down, something that makes it difficult to decide to say enough.

"All violence is the result of people fooling themselves into believing that their pain is caused by other people, therefore thinking that they deserve to be punished (Marshall Rosenberg)"

The phrase is quite self-explanatory and leads us to think that one of the motivators (although not the only one) of the aggression is the self-contempt and the feeling of little competence of the abuser.

"Break in silence. When you witness violence against women, do not stand idly by. Take action. (Ban Ki-Moon) "

This phrase of the diplomat and former Secretary-General of the United Nations expresses the need for witnesses and those who perceive the mistreatment, not to limit themselves to ignore them; rather, help the victims and report acts of violence.

"The fear of women, of men's violence, is the mirror of men's fear of women without fear (Eduardo Galeano)"

Many cases of gender violence are based on the aggressor's need to maintain power and control over the other, using aggression as a method of trying to suppress the victim's power, to live freely.

STORY:

Víctor Urdaneta and Dora Lara have been married for four years, and those years of marriage have been a true hell for Dora, who has suffered from mistreatment and rape by her husband.

At first, it wasn't like that; since, Victor pretended to be the "Prince Charming" "The perfect man", an educated man, with good manners, who would never hurt any woman; on the contrary, he has always been kind, attentive, gentleman, the typical perfect man who does not have any flaws.

Due to the way and way of being Victor, he managed to conquer Dora, and the following year, they were already married. The first year of marriage, they were as if they were still in the middle of their honeymoon, and they didn't have any kind of problems; far from setbacks, because the immense love they had for each other was reflected.

But the happiness did not last for long, because the true Victor Urdaneta came to light, and he is a beast, disguised as a meek sheep. Things changed when Dora discovered that Victor had a lover.

"Who is she?" Dora asked, after hearing a woman tell her husband love.

"I do not know what are you talking about; far from it, I don't know what woman you are talking about "replied Victor, cynically.

"You know perfectly well who I'm talking about, don't play dumb and answer me," Dora said, screaming louder and louder.

"I've already told you and I don't know how to tell you. I don't know who she is ", Víctor said again, raising his voice even more.

From the screams, they began to fight and in the middle of the fight, Victor gives him a strong slap and Dora slaps him back with another slap, and thus, they begin to fight for real.

The fight was so strong, that they were both unrecognizable, and by night, they were both so sore that they could barely move. They had both had a face around their eyes and at the same time, blood had come out.

That night, neither of them wanted to have dinner together and they avoided each other for two weeks and after two weeks, Victor appears at Dora's work, with a gigantic, but beautiful bouquet of red flowers and carnations.

"Sorry, love, for how bad I have behaved with you. I don't know what happened to me, but I swear it will never happen again "said Victor, as he knelt before Dora.

"I don't know if I should believe you. You've hurt me too much that I don't know what to say to you "Dora replied, remembering that day when Victor was too violent with her.

"Please, dear Dora. Believe me when I tell you that I am truly sorry for all the evil I have done to you, and I swear that it will never happen again ", said Victor again.

For Dora, it was difficult to hear those words, after the pain inflicted by him, but she wanted to give him a second chance and gave it to him.

Victor was immensely happy, he just finished listening to Dora, who was giving him a second chance. I could not believe that so much happiness could fit in my heart.

Dora and Víctor had a month of honeymoon; in which, there was nothing domestic violence and they were sharing the best moments, as a couple that they are, treasuring every moment together and at the same time, having several romantic dates.

But the honeymoon did not last any longer; since the problems returned and this time, it would be worse than the previous one. Victor and Dora were fighting over nothing serious; until, one day, things got worse.

Dora was ironing Victor's clothes when the phone rang, and she answered, forgetting that she had the iron on and that she had left it on top of Victor's clothes and worst of all, it was one of her favorite clothes.

The moment Víctor gets home, he starts to smell burned, and he rushes into the house, and when he goes to the laundry room, he sees that the iron was on and on top of one of his favorite clothes and when he goes to look for Dora finds her talking on the phone.

The two events made Victor explode with anger and began to unload all his anger on Dora. The first thing he did was, try to choke her with the phone, and when he saw that he could not reach his goal, he began to throw all kinds of things at him, from the smallest to the largest and heaviest.

The moment Víctor saw that blood began to come out of Dora's head and nose, he took advantage of that moment and began to beat her, mistreat her, insult her, hit her, bite her, electrocute and even rape her.

As much as Dora tried to defend herself, she couldn't, because he was too strong and out of himself, he had completely lost control over himself.

That savagery lasted exactly two days; days in which Dora lived a true hell and on the third day, Victor gets out of bed and goes to the bathroom to bathe and once he has bathed, he goes out and begins to get dressed.

"That happens to you for burning my clothes and for being talking on the phone," said Victor, while he was getting dressed, and after that, he left, leaving Dora alone, sad, defenseless, and weak in bed.

Dora stayed an hour in bed, crying uncontrollably, after the savagery she suffered because of her husband. He couldn't believe how a man could do so much harm to a woman.

"Is this how all marriages are? Why didn't my mom tell me about this? Do I deserve to suffer this way? Am I not worth as a woman? " she told herself, while she was crying.

After that hour, Dora told herself that "I will not allow him to continue mistreating me going nowhere"

After two days, Victor appears, with two female bites on his neck, lipstick on his shirt, the shirt that Dora gave him, and badly dressed.

"Until you arrived! I thought you would continue on vacation with your lovers! " Dora said cynically.

"You are cynical! And I see that you still have your sarcasm. I have a feeling that we are going to have a strong fight; of which the only one of us will remain alive, while the other will be dead. Who do you think will end up alive and the other dead? " Victor asked him in the same cynical tone that Dora was using.

"We will see that shortly. Do not think that I will die without giving you a fight first and leaving you without your "little friend" with you ", said Dora, in an even more cynical tone.

Then the two began to fight hard and seriously because the two had absolutely nothing to lose. Every fight they had, the two of them didn't miss an opportunity to throw things at each other; be it, light or heavy, until shooting itself and throwing knives.

In each fight, they also did not miss the opportunity to kick, hit, insult, hit, and "discharge" all their anger on the other, because neither of them wanted to lose, in this fight that is all or nothing.

The next two hours have been for both of them, the two hours of hell, because they decided to deliver in this fight, absolutely all their hatred that they felt towards each other.

The fight was so strong that it managed to wake up the neighbors, and since they knew perfectly well the origin of the screams, they did not want to wait any longer and called the police.

As soon as the police arrived, they immediately went to the home of Víctor Urdaneta and Dora Lara. They were knocking on the door for half an hour, and no one approached the door to open them or to lean out to see who knocked on the door that way.

When they saw that they had no answer from them, the neighbors began to shout their names, to open the door, or to know if they were alive and did not respond.

After an hour of no response, the police decided to knock down the door, and as soon as they achieved their objective, everyone immediately entered to find out what was happening.

Everything was calm until they heard an "Ahy!", but it was a heartbreaking sound that they had heard.

"The sound comes from the top of the house," said the police chief.

When everyone went straight up to the main room, they imagined all kinds of scenes, except for the scene they would see the moment they entered the room.

The moment they reached the main room, they saw Victor, who would not stop complaining about the pain and when they approached him, they immediately noticed that he did not have his penis.

When asked about his penis, he replied that his wife Dora had thrown it out of the window and immediately went downstairs, left the room, picked up the penis and put it in a sleeve, and threw it into the garbage truck that was just passing by. moment.

Everyone was shocked, after hearing the dreaded confession from Victor. The only thing the police could do is ask for an ambulance to come, so that Victor can be taken to the emergency room; while, they took Dora, to take statements about it.

No one knows why or how things happened, but in the middle of the interview, Dora completely lost her mind and ended up in the asylum, and as for Victor, he ended up dead in the operating room.