He is ghoster not ghostee

Another time this guy ghosted me after a couple of months. He reached out wanting to apologize and explain … then ghosted me again. My most recent: I was talking to a guy for almost six months (longish distance). It's going on two weeks now with nothing, after we used to text every single day. My goal in dating right now is to meet a guy who would actually dump me.

As a young woman I was ghosted by a man who turned out to have a serious problem with alcohol. It was humiliating, but I knew I was way better off without a substance abuser in my life.

However, many years later I was ghosted by a woman I had thought of as my best friend for six years, and that was more hurtful by far. When someone who has called you every day, professed undying friendship and sisterhood, supported you, advised you, defended you and included you in everything they did for years, suddenly locks you out of their orbit with no warning and no explanation, it's easy to feel really misused.

When I did manage to get my ex-friend to speak to me on the phone, she told me that her seeming abandonment of me was "all in my head." Mutual friends I consulted agreed that it wasn't "all in my head," but clammed up completely when pressed for further information. To this day I have no idea what, if anything, I did to bring this ghosting about, and as a result, I'm still hurt by it.

I saw my brother hood  two years ago and he is exactly the same. Absolutely no growth. I finally ghosted him, as trying to explain or justify my exhaustion with his mean-spirited behaviors would have fallen on deaf ears.

I just don't care about him anymore. There are times when ghosting is the best way to handle a situation. I feel so much better now!

I had been dating a guy for almost two months. Everything seemed like it was going well — we had made plans to go out the following weekend. Then he texted me that he was in the emergency room and would need to cancel our date. Of course I was worried, so I texted and called him numerous times to see how he was doing, but he didn't respond. Eleven days went by and I constantly went back-and-forth between worry, confusion and anger that he might be ghosting me. I finally texted him "are you dead?" He told me he was just released from the hospital after emergency heart surgery.

I felt terrible. I asked him how he was doing and how I could support him. He said he needed time to recover and would follow up soon. I never heard from him after that. I texted him to follow up a couple of times, with no response. It was one of the most frustrating experiences of my life, because I had no idea what was real and what wasn't. Was he ghosting me the first time and just felt bad when I asked him if he was dead and made up the whole story about the surgery? Or was the surgery real and the relationship was just too much to deal with? I'll never know.

I am a ghoster, not a ghostee. I probably started when I was 18. I think something is wrong with me. I hate the feeling I get when a girl lectures me over text on how rude it is to ghost. I genuinely agree with those sentiments … and yet I've continued to ghost on relationships, at events and even in my professional life. A part of it for me is low self-esteem. I've never dated a girl in other area ,  that I could see myself satisfying and being good to long-term. After a handful of dates, or in rare cases a couple months, I inevitably feel like I am wasting their time and they could be doing better without me … soon after that, I ghost.

I am sure a handful of young women in this city are confused, but I hope better off and participating in more fulfilling relationships with better men. I think I should seek help, and I would love to learn more about the psychological profile behind your average ghoster. I don't get any sick pleasure out of not showing up somewhere or ceasing a line of communication. I feel horrible about what I have done (or not done) and I just hope whoever I have done wrong is happier now than they were whenever they interacted with me.

We met through on street .First date was at his house. Talked for hours, first kiss.  which he did frequently. After a few perfunctory texts, he disappeared. I was a wreck for weeks, having never been ghosted before. I got over it, just by the passage of time.

By Sunday late morning, I'm in a panic, thinking that he's been hit by a car on his Saturday morning bike ride. No response from him. By Monday, I sent my final text, saying that I had no idea where he was, if he was even still alive, but that I didn't want to move forward until I was important enough to him for him to respond to me. Turns out, he was still alive, very much so. I later learned that his "roommate," whom he described as his ex-girlfriend in the process of finding a new place to live, was NOT his ex.

Eventually, I reached out to his "ex"; we had an amazing, healthy conversation, and I now consider her a friend!

I was ghosted by my ex of four years. I last heard from him two days before Christmas. I'd been giving him some space because he had a sick relative and was stressing about school. I didn't hear from him again until I got a "Happy Birthday!" text in February. I did not respond."