Suman women bar sex until marriage and pick carefully when it comes to marriage like the men do because they want to have kids, bare children, and be able to properly take care of children.
Suman women had self-respect and would watch who they gave their bodies to, but they also just didn't want to get the wrong man as the father of their children.
Suman women often married able bodied men with good incomes, good mental health and a high place in society for themselves and their future children.
not saying they didn't make bad choices in picking men, they just tried their best.
They were in a cult, so... Their picks were not always the best men.