WHAT A WOMAN CAN DO TO GET HER HUSBAND’S ATTENTION

This part is concerning normal men not abusers. Abusers will perceive these actions differently. Because abusers don't think like normal men.

1 – Build your relationship with The Lord Jesus Christ

Every man would love a woman who fears God not with her lips but also in deeds. A woman that spends time with God, her husband, and children is a necessity, especially in this generation. A good man longs for a woman who can help him keep the atmosphere of the home conducive to host God, one who can train the children in the way of the Lord with him and who puts God first in her life. This type of woman will always capture her husband's attention especially if he is a godly man. However, she must be able to balance her ministry as a wife and mother with her relationship with God.

2 - Make him know you are still and always will be attracted to him

This is a quick access into a man's heart and to grasp your man's attention. It is not only women that want to feel attractive. Men too want the women in their lives to find them attractive. Now, it is your duty not to just let him know (by way of telling him) but also make him know (by way of showing him).

3 – Dress to kill.

This is just a literal statement. In essence, dress to impress him. Men are visually inclined; they are moved to act or react by the reason of what they see while women are auditory inclined. They are moved by what they hear. There is no reason you should dress shabby for your husband or the man in your life and expect to get his attention. Moreover, men look at your appearance first, before they approach you. They look at the container before they access the content.

4 – Treat your Man with Respect

What love is to a woman, is what respect is to a man. When a woman showers her husband with lots of respect, he will go any length to protect and provide for her. If you want to get your husband's attention, just show him some respect. Acknowledge the efforts he is making no matter how small to keep the family going. Speak well of him before your parents and friends.

5- Be submissive

The word, submission makes some people uncomfortable. Now a lot of people mistake submission for weakness. Submission is not agreeing on everything. Submission is not putting the will of the husband before the will of Christ.

Submission does not mean living or acting in fear. Submission is the calling of a wife to honor and affirm her husband's leadership, and to help carry it through according to her gifts. Godly men do not use women who are submissive but have high regard for them.

6 – Show Commitment

Men these days look for women who they can rely on both emotionally and physically. They want a woman who can be counted on. They want their wives to contribute equally to the household, in this society, men are no longer viewed as the family's sole breadwinners. Men, like women, desire a long-term relationship with someone who is trustworthy, loyal, and committed.

7- Pay attention to his love language

Ensure you learn to know the love language of your husband and respond to it.

There are five love languages, quality time, acts of service, receiving gifts, physical touch, and words of affirmation.

Each time you speak his love language, he feels wanted and in turn, you get his attention.

8 - Be spontaneous

Do not be predictable. Even though you have been married for five to ten years, which should not

stop you from springing up surprises for your man.

The thing is, what most women want men to do to them to make them feel loved and wanted are still the same things men want.

The difference is that men do not easily express their desire for such affections because of their ego.

9 – Join Him in Something That He enjoys

A lot of women complain that their husbands do not spend time with them. Meanwhile, they do not join their husbands in doing that thing he enjoys doing and spends time in. Develop passion for whatever he is interested in. Most men enjoy watching football, join him when he watches it.

Become a fan of his favorite club, cheer them when they are winning and share in their sadness when they lose. By doing so, you will gradually win the heart of your husband and get his full attention at your command.

After escape the victim has to get counseling to put the victim thought patterns back in right perspective. Say a survivor is triggered by the sound of heavy footsteps coming down a hallway.

In their memory, this sound indicated that their abuser was home and that some type of abuse was about to occur. Hearing footsteps now makes the survivor's heart race. His or her hands begin to sweat and they begin to panic. Or the survivor readies him or herself to fight whoever is coming their way. The hearing of footsteps has to be now connected to positive associations. Such as someone making the sound of footsteps being related to something good being done to and for the victim in real life not just in the imagination.