Was Xeno a good or bad place?

So Xeno was not as inclusive and easy going as they assumed it would be. But which empire in the interstellar truly was? They all had their positives and negatives so Scarlet did what diplomats do best. She put on her best smile and tried not appear off put right from the get go. 

Carana put an arm around Scarlet and she said, "Don't worry my friend, you all are our honored guests so we will not expect your men to conform to our traditions. We want you to enjoy Xeno and when you leave, it should be with glowing reports that will deepen our ties. Please, follow me to the our empress's palace, my mother is simply excited to meet you all." 

Then she turned to the others and added in a very serious voice, "But not the men. Men do not step into the palace of the great empress of Xeno, ever." She paused just before she added the ever. It sounded like a warning and threat at the same time.