Chapter :8: Meeting various expectations on daily basis

Well, the word expectation sound really heavy. Isn't it? But it's not always mandatory to be heavy by nature. It may also be small things that are expected from us and sometimes that we expect from someone. Many a times, expectations are explained but better if we understand the expression because things are better when they're not expressed. And to understand without expressing proves how much the beholder knows you or vice versa.

Expectations may differ, like for example, as I have discussed in my previous chapters that sometimes our career option aren't chosen by us on our own rather comes to most of us as a result of our parent's expectations. Here the expectation that we are going to discuss about is psychological and moral expectations towards the elderly by us youngsters.

Well, the first thing that comes into the mind while talking about expectations is taking up responsibilities as a son or a daughter. Most of us are working and returns home by the sunset or after senset (as per the geographical conditions, may vary from place to place) but let's take sunset as our basis of discussion. Post our return, very few of us are well systemic to keep our belongings and apparels in proper order and place. No offence to those who just act messy because tiredness can kill your systems and especially if you're working under any private firm.

Then, we head towards cleaning ourselves and getting homely dressed followed by occupying our favorite corner to watch TV or to simply operate our smartphones. To a stretch, we talk to our loved ones but most of the time we just maintain the routine because fatigue surpasses our romance. Of course!

Apart from this, did we ever think of the ones who count on us starting from the time we leave for the office until we come back? Yes, you're going on a right track. I am certainly talking about your family members! I mean, they're obviously anxious to have words with you more than your lover. The only difference is, our loved ones expresses and asks for attention and gets us to knees if we fail to do so whereas parents simply waits and never complains about it nor they bring us down to our knees. Isn't that what we call loving unconditionally? Well, lovers aren't so bad people either but the point is we are distributing our time unevenly. For some it's plenty and for some it's handful. That's disappointing!!

Not much that they ask rather than some quality time to spend with you in the evening time. Now, the question arises, we get so much irritated at office and later we don't feel like to share it to anyone or even talk to anyone. Well I think I have an answer to that question. Keep an open and transparent discussion with your parents, they might be old but not dumb. They've experienced the world much before and much better than you did so far. Yes, some times, the thought process changes due to generation gap but you will get a solution. May be you get it in a raw form and you mould it your way but you'll get one for sure. Their practical life experience is much more vital and effective than our knowledge of qualifications.

On the contrary, even if for the sake of self defense if we say that parents won't be much of any help, then my dear, you're wrong again! Simply putting your stressful head on your mother's lap or sitting close beside your father simply accompanying him with his chores can set you free from any size stress. Trust me! It works because they expect you to draw closer to them. They're never judgmental nor will ever look down at you. No matter how successful or unsuccessful you are in life but for them you're still their lovely little baby in the cradle with his half worn half torn pants who would enjoy to a lullaby. And this is true, parent's love is like a medicine to all sort of tensions.

I don't know how many of you would take this into consideration but let me be honest, I was damn addicted to this lullaby and trust me it carried me swiftly protecting me from all the ups and downs of life. A mother's feet is heaven and her lap is the most beautiful and protected resting place for her children. And a father's heart for his child always says "Any time service, for any cause".

We should be a little conscious towards them. While at childhood, when we didn't even had words to speak they used to understand each unsaid words and now when we got our word power, we tend to misuse it by yelling at them or behaving oddly. Why?? Why to make those eyes shed tears when they can make our life even more meaningful?

Initiatives are best when it's taken. "Well done is far appreciable then well said". Let's now don't waste any single moment and make them feel proud of having us. Let us prove that we can also understand their unsaid words and can be a better son or daughter.

Let us now go beyond this and try doing something worthwhile. Well, for a start, we all have 4 Sundays in a month as a day for relaxation and family outing. Let's plan each Sunday accordingly. Like for example, counting down as per priority. Of course! We're tired and need to get some rest first and that's not priority rather a need. Secondly, parents and then we still get 2 more Sundays for our friends and loved ones.

Ideas are plenty but everything falls right in place only when we want them to be in their right places.

Think wisely, choose wisely