Something we need to think and talk about

People rarely fall out of love. They fall out of respect, trust, and faith. Ignoring someone you're close to is just as unhealthy as threatening someone to do something or you'll leave them. Real love does not come from control. Truth is you won't be able to control anyone. There's a Buddhist saying: when you like a flower, you just pluck it. But when you love a flower, you water it daily." Similarly, a relationship needs almost daily nurturing even after we get married. You need to show one another daily appreciation and small gestures of kindness and love depending on what each person's love language is. Truth is that just because you married someone or are in a relationship with them, there is no guarantees for happily ever after. Happily ever after doesn't just happen. They are the result of choosing every day to show up for the one you love and showing it through gestures and actions.

Respect is also part of a healthy relationship. Without respect and seeing your partner as an equal there can't exist any love. Accepting your partner for who he is, not who you'd rather want them to be is also part of a healthy relationship. Each person values who the other person is and accepts and respects their boundaries.

Trust and honesty are also very important. Without them, a relationship is similar to someone, who drives a car blindfolded. If you can't trust yourself, you won't be able to trust your partner either. Trust is the faith in you and/or the other person that you can count on yourself/the other in good and in bad times.

Honesty and compromise are also essential in a healthy relationship. There will come a time when you will need to make compromises to continue the relationship. However, if you do a compromise, do it because it feels right in your heart, not because you've been pressured to do it. There are no guarantees that the future will go one way or the other no matter what you choose. And no matter, what you choose, you will have to live with the consequences of your choices, good or bad. Also, a relationship built on lies can last a while. Sooner or later, it will crumble though. Honesty is a healthy base for a relationship.

Each partner should have their individuality and each part involved should have their own identity and personal preferences. You can't be a part of a whole if you don't know what part you are. You should have your own dreams, goals, preferences, and fight for them and strive to live a life that is as close to possible to the best possible life you envision for yourself. Yes, love is a wonderful feeling, however, if one day it just ends out of the blue who would you be? What dreams and goals would you want to accomplish? We are all going to die one day. Don't take your dreams as unfinished business and wasted potential with you. You came on this earth with a mission and probably, even a talent. You are an infinite being and your body is just the machinery that wraps your soul and provides it a temporary shape on this earth. Your life with its good and bad is an opportunity, a chance, a miracle. Seize the day. Dyeing is inescapable, but we need to remember to live and take risks.

We may all have our contract with the universe: most of us have a goal and then some obstacles make us question who we are, what we want, or what our ultimate goal is. For some of us, obstacles represent a lack of material resources, for others a disease or maybe some unresolved trauma. Keep fighting: this is the way the universe is testing how badly you want it and how far you are willing to go to fly. Because at the end of the day, only if you are truly dedicated, keep fighting and also a shred of luck is on your side there's a chance you might reach your goal. To win a game you have to keep playing it until you win. It goes without a saying that you must also believe that you are worthy and good enough to reach the top… No matter what you think about yourself, you will manifest it one way or another in the outer world.

Sometimes things work out and the boy gets the girl or the other way around and the ending is considered happy. But sometimes things don't work out. I'd rather consider the tale at hand a lesson about strength, love, passion, ambition, and a quest for dreams and hope. Even when things don't end up the way you thought they were supposed to, there are always precious gems you can extract and learn about. Sometimes the worst disappointments put you directly on the path you were supposed to be on to become your higher self and uncover the hidden potential hidden inside you. And sometimes, you kept and kept fighting for the one you thought you loved, but in the end, if things don't work out this is how things were supposed to end up and you need to let go and go on a new adventure. In the end, you need to learn to love yourself with all the good parts, but also the parts you thought were the ugliest: the disability, your fears, and every demon you tried so hard to run away from. No more running. A beautiful picture isn't only composed of beautiful colors, but also of imperfections. To create a perfect picture, you need to see and accept both the beautiful parts, but also the ugly ones. Perfection lies in imperfection. Before we become a diamond, we need to accept that we need to go through the rough part and embrace it, because struggles and reaching goals, but also wrinkles and youth walk hand in hand. One of the hardest parts about growing up is forgiving yourself for the mistakes of your younger self since you were young and naïve, you did not know better and ended up hurting the people you cared about by treating them the one way you did not like to be treated. It is somehow funny, but also sad that you end up in that position. However, the only thing you can do when there is nothing left to be done regarding the past is to accept it and to look toward the future.

And, just when you least expect it, life turns once more around and surprises you in ways you can't imagine.