"What have you decided to do with it?" I ask her and she shrugs her shoulders.
"I haven't really shown it to my husband" she says and my eyes practically fly open at this.
"Why would you want to show it to him?" I asked her and the sorry look that she gives me is enough to make me know that I can figure out at least a little bit of what is happening here.
"Do you really think your whole world depends on him?" I ask her and she nods her head.
"That is all I know, that is what I have been told after all. A man isn't a man without his wife, and a wife is only worth as much as her husband makes her to be".
The simple theology makes me know that Vivian is more educated than this, but even she, even she who is practically educated is being forced into the role of a washer woman because her husband was not going to allow her to do anything else.
"He won't allow you to work, he won't allow you to live your life, he won't take care of your kids, he won't take care of you, he steals from you, he lies to you, he makes your life a living hell, and still you think you are only worth what he says?".
She cracks an eyebrow up at me, like what else would i have been expecting and sincerely I feel like smashing plates onto her head. I feel like smashing something on the floor, just smashing it anywhere because there is simple anger in me.
"You also know that isn't true, and if you love your kids, if you love the kids that you care for about so much, then you would look for a way to change that".
"Even if I moved somewhere else, he would still find me. He has done it before" she says, and I shake my head.
"Go to harrasment services, go to the police, go to someone, but don't continue living like that. Don't continue living in such squalor because you think so lowly of yourself. Your worth isn't determined by anybody, your worth isn't determined by what anybody is saying or what anybody is doing, you are only worth how much you make yourself to be.
If you love yourself and you care about your kids, you wouldn't go on living like this, you wouldn't go on living with someone who doesn't cherish you for who you are, who only seeks to exploit you in every possible way because he has someone else he is in love with".
I can see that the tears are flowing freely from her eyes now and I actually feel proud a little bit. I can't say that I've ever been the one who was good with words but yet I had managed to make her feel something today. I hope it is enough to make her come to a realisation at least.