Chapter:5 The fall for someone in life

There's a very well known proverb that says " Two heads are better than one". Quite true! Man is a social animal and even in wilderness he needs someone to be by his side through all the ups and downs of life. But how many of us really get such a person? All I see are people with their shattered hearts.

Youngsters nowadays has set a mindset that they need to have a bf/gf. Somehow, they consider it as a prestigious status to tell everyone and brag about it especially to their friends that they have a bf/gf. But if we observe deeply, the problem of heartbreaks and breakups arises here. Hasty actions leads to disasters.

When we attain a certain age, we get attracted to people but do we know that there's a very thin line between attraction and infatuation? Most of us, never had even thought about it. When we go to any temple or we love our God, we do offer sacrifices to God by fasting, bowing down, maintaining cleanliness while attempting any worship to the God. Do we know why? It is not just any religious ritual rather it is more like love and respect towards the Almighty. Similarly, the same act is to be performed with dedication when we say we love someone because love is never worldly, it is a divine feeling so it has to be treated with certain divine and extraordinary mannerisms.

True love is never envy, it only gives and never expect anything in return. True love doesn't demand the riches of the world rather it demand the person who means the world. True love is like a flame that keeps burning throughout the life.

Love is beautiful and amusing in its own ways. It fights but still then waits to be pampered again. It makes us angry but even though it still makes our hearts wait to get iced by our lover again.

We often blend our like with love and end up deteriorating everything in such relationship. Gautam Buddha said, "when you like a flower you pluck it, and when you love a flower you keep watering it daily"

Love needs to be nurtured very carefully on daily basis by care, understanding, patience and honesty. It's not any ramp show status.

Many a times, it is also seen that people say or rather complain that they're suffocating in relationships. Some say, they're fed up or bored, things have become very monotonous.

I don't understand, why?

I mean, if a relationship has honesty as a base then what's the point of getting envious? If we're not able to trust or if we feel that the other person isn't worthy of trust then, it's crystal clear that you're not in love for sure. It may be mere a like or infatuation.

Secondly, the monotonous nature in a relationship. As far as I have experienced, I can say that most of us as soon as we get into a relationship, we take it for granted. In other words, what we do is to simply take it as any normal human life part and include our love part into our routine. A call daily, a text sometimes, we prioritize other things so much that we don't even care to talk. Here is the mistake, we're the one who are laying the wrong foundation, how can we expect our relationship to be long lasting?

Professionalism is good. One need to have professional traits in him/her but personal life is equally important and the most important unit of personal life is your love.

We can simply mend such situations by our small and simple acts. We don't have to gift any diamond or bring the whole world under the feet of the beholder. All we just need to do is to make sure that we always gift our lover with the most precious gift called "time". No one today, wants astronomical presents always. Love doesn't demand anything unnecessarily. If we could stretch ourselves a little more, we can also think of many simple yet innovative ideas like crafting a card or simply write some lines for the other person.

There are ways by which we can bring great changes and add some enhancements to our relationship. It's just a matter of change in our ways.