Chapter :6: Growing up as boys and girls psychological and societal view

I don't know if my valuable readers have noticed it or not or perhaps might have noticed but never thought of it deeply. It is a topic that is associated with gender stereotypes. I do not intend to harm any community whether it's a male or a female community. I respect both and feel that both of the genders are equally important and valuable. In one hand if we say that there's no love greater than a mother's love then on the other hand we must accept that there's no care and protection greater than a father.

My point is the wrong interpretation of roles or rather classifying roles on the basis of gender.

To continue further, a boy by birth is given all the rights and freedom whereas a girl experiences an invisible confinement fenced with loads of rules around them. To be more specific, in some states of our country, girls are considered as liability and boys are assets thus, as a result we see and hear news about infant mortality especially if the embryo has a chromosome of a girl.

On the basis of argument, we simply say, they are downtrodden and illiterate states but have we ever thought that those states are not actually illiterate rather more literate because they are tend to be more beneficial as boys are considered as capital in the society. No offence anyways!

This is not only limited to any rural town or village but the stereotypical thought has risen up to such a level that even in metropolitan cities, people are doing the same in an Indirect way. Of course! Being a metropolitan citizen they can't go for an abortion of a girl child. Not because of morals but due to the fear of being arrested. Some good educated couples are exceptional and I respect them.

Well, this is what we all read about the birth story... Let us now adjust our focus to a distant point...

While at school, a girl who is very studious and scores much better than boys are still mocked by some gender specifical group that says, han han ladkiyan sirf baith kar padh sakti hai.. (girls can only sit and study). I mean, seriously? You're all criticizing them just because they studied??? Seriously? Who the hell restricted the boys to study? No one, it was their choice. I mean, just because they chose to study means they will be now criticized on the basis of their gender? That's not fair! Isn't it? You can't just simply explain your failures saying that girls are over studious. They did their job as a student and you were also supposed to do so that you didn't... What's their fault????

Well, moving on to further stage, when a girl gets a job, everyone is like, ladki hoke kam pe jana? (a working woman, how's that's possible? ) because people have their mindset as seeing girls only serving as a waitress at home.

Further, when a girl gets married, she's taught and advised about thousand of norms and guidelines. And as for boys, it's like, just go and get married! (as if they're bringing home a non paid permanent slave).

Many people say, boys don't cry as it's not their part. I say, crying is a human psychological act, whether be it a man or a woman. The heart that is hurt will shed tears. And the heart doesn't classify roles as per gender. That's a norm created by society.

Secondly, men are not supposed to do the household chores, as for the society that's a feminine act. But as for woman, no matter what the situation is, or how ill she is, she's supposed to do everything. I mean, seriously? She's also a human! Don't just set unnecessary and illogical roles on the basis of gender. She's also a human.

Society has its own norms but we should be logical. What we would never want for our sister would never let any such thing happen to our wives.. She left everything for us whereas we're still with our family. Don't we think, she deserves some more care and attention?

Just think and act likewise