Rafi'S critical moment

Aunty gave me the responsibility of taking care of Shom's physical aspect. Told me no one else in the family

Aunty - Baba Rafi bring Shom to the right path as much as you can. I will be grateful to you. You will have blessings from me.

How helpless a mother can make such a request, I felt. She entrusted the responsibility to a drug addict. Little did she know that she was using another drug-addicted son to cure her drug-addicted son. I took it upon myself to heal Soum.

I go to a specialist to learn about addiction. Dr. Musa serves as the head of a drug addiction treatment center. He also has three addiction treatment centers of his own. He said after I approached him.

Dr. Musa - The behavior of an addict is not that they lack morality, rather they emphasize that the behavior of an addict is a disease which is a mental illness. When someone exhibits the behaviors of an addict, they continue to use drugs despite knowing their sure consequences. Their addictive behavior is very unlikely to end without intensive intervention and appropriate treatment. But if he wishes from his own heart, it is possible. Whether or not you or Shom's family define his addiction as a mental illness, it doesn't mean that you will have to deal with Shom's current behavior too hard. Individuals addicted to certain substances often exhibit some common behavioral characteristics. These behaviors of his tend to be red flags to loved ones and anyone can tell he has a problem. It can be frightening, depressing to family members. Even loved ones can feel sad and helpless all the time.

I was feeling a lot of irritation listening to Dr. Musa. Still trying to concentrate. I didn't like the words because I was an addict myself. I asked him how we can get Shom back as before?

Dr. Musa - You need to realize that you are not the cause of an addict's behavior. No matter what kind of manipulative tactics Shom uses on you, you won't let him down easily. Observe his behaviors and try to understand the reality of important situations. Don't allow yourself to be drawn into the addict's fantasy world. You will not show mercy to him in his tears. But once you accept the reality of Shom's situation, you can begin to deal with his behavior by setting boundaries. Boundaries are crucial for the addict, but also for your own well-being. You should be clear, concise and consistent. You should also realize that you cannot learn how to change addictive behavior in another person. All you can do is organize an intervention, try to motivate the addict to seek treatment, and to be firm in sticking to your boundaries. No matter how hard you try, an addict or addict cannot change their behavior. You should learn that dealing with an addict's behavior depends on a commitment not to enable the addiction and that you can never manipulate. Addicts hate not listening, but when you're willing to say it, it's one of the most effective ways to deal with addict behavior. You have to be careful to change addictive behavior. You have to pay attention to yourself. You have to be selfish. But that doesn't mean you're making sure your own needs are met. Because an addict often engages in highly destructive behaviors.

After finishing the discussion with Dr. Musa and leaving, I informed Aunty about everything. She asked me to finalize admission to Shom's drug addiction treatment center. In the end, the responsibility of admitting Shom to the rehab center is on me. So I necessarily took him to a nearby rehab center for admission.

I talk to Shom about going to a drug addiction treatment center. I was quite surprised to hear what Shom told me. He was crying to me.

Shom - I agree to remove all types of drugs from my list of use. I won't go there though. Drug addicts are beaten at excessive rates in rehab centers. Which I can't stand. i will die Can you see it? Do you want to see my dead body? People who go there for treatment are not properly fed. Punishes, does not allow family members to meet, does not give medicine. A lot of torture. i won't go You say something else, I will do everything for you.

I informed Shom about admission to drug addiction treatment center. I was quite surprised to hear what Saum told me. He was crying to me

Shom - I agree to eliminate all types of drugs from my list of use. I won't go there though. Drug addicts are beaten at excessive rates in rehab centers. Which I can't stand. i will die Can you see it? Do you want to see my dead body? People who go there for treatment are not properly fed. Punishes, does not allow family members to meet, does not give medicine. A lot of torture. i won't go You say something else, I'm willing to listen to everything else you have to say.

But Shom, you don't understand that your mother has given me the difficult task of curing you and presenting you as a normal person before your mom. You tell me what to do?

Shom - You have a lot to do. Where do you want to admit me?

Why? In a drug addiction treatment center.

Shom - You want me to get better. Get well, right?

Yes, of course. Not only me, everyone in your family wants the same. May you smile and be happy again.

shom - I will recover after two or three months apart from the family. I was able to get off the drug after a few days in a room by myself. I don't need to tell my mother that I am not taking treatment. You say, you admitted me to a drug addiction treatment center far away. Family members can't go there because they can't bear much. You better do something. Arrange to rent a house for two to three months. We stayed together in a separate room. Make an estimate of the money that may be spent on it. As possible expenses, consider room rent, food expenses, prescriptions, entertainment and other expenses. Then compare how much money the drug addiction treatment center will cost. The cost will be reported to the mother a little more than that. When we get the money, we will go to the new house. You'll take care of me, that's all. Besides, since you need a place to stay, you'll spend the best time with me. Do the calculation and bring the required money to me from my mother.

Shom had resorted to a nice manipulation with me. He explained to me beautifully that even if he didn't trick himself into a drug addiction treatment center, he could recover. On the other hand, from the beginning to the end of his admission to the drug addiction treatment center, he planned to spend more than the sum of all expenses, from his mother. He immediately made a plan, which was in his mind. Secretly made a good opportunity to live a solitary life of luxury. What's more interesting is that he used me as the main character in all these criminal activities. I didn't understand anything then. I brought him money from his mother. Where was the full expenditure of three months. Which is the full cost of treatment at the rehab center. With that money Shom was living an independent life outside the family. He used to use drugs in a rented house by calling his friends. This was his new strategy. I also used to take drugs together with them. We were having a great time. In just 10 days we used up all the money for three months.

Rafi began to cough profusely while speaking to the passerby. Blood flowed continuously from his throat along with coughing. Seeing him in such an unusual condition, everyone around, including the audience of the story, got scared. Rafi was admitted to a hospital on an emergency basis.