Take time for yourself

"Love yourself enough to set boundaries. Your time and energy are precious. You get to choose how you use it. You teach people how to treat you by deciding what you will and won't accept."

-Anna Taylor

I know that we have many things to do, take care of, and finish on time. Especially for young people who continue to face and fight every challenge of life. Especially more than the firstborn who only want to help their parents, work, and study at the same time. Because I know we still have a lot to achieve. we have no desire but to lift our loved ones in a good way and give our parents a good future and help our brothers and sisters.

But always remember that we also need rest every second and minute. Let's not rush what we do, whether it's work or study.

I know that it is equally important to focus on work and studies. But let's give ourselves time to be happy with the family.

Our life does not only revolve around work, study, eating, and sleeping. But we also need to make our life happy and avoid stress, anxiety, and depression.

I know that What we always say is "It's fun to teach" and "I'm happy with my job" but always remember that the fun of studying and working in the real world is different with family and friends. That one happy day without nervousness, stress, or anything else that disturbs our minds.

It's not like studying and working with time that is heavy The mind and there are always disturbing problems. Let's learn to take at least a little time for ourselves. Have fun with family and friends. And do it, your motivation in life is above all to build a good memory with your loved one.

I know that each one of us has gone through life, not only financially, but we have many problems that we face every day. I know that you are also tired, continue what you started but don't stop. Instead, just rest for a while, and of course continue the work that has been started. Let's not just give up. For the reason that you were hurt or failed just because of the simple thing that we think that we can't do it anymore. The Lord Jesus said, "Come to me, all of you who are weary and carry heavy burdens, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you. Let me teach you, because I am humble and gentle at heart, and you will give rest for your souls."

God's promise for us is good. Just trust and entrust yourself to him.

Nothing is impossible for him. Impossible things are impossible for you.

Remember always,the days you spent for your work compared to yourself. As much as you love your work, you should also love yourself. Take care of your strength and resistance that you have in your body because no one else will do it for you when you yourself are hurt mentally.

However, let's be an example to others and if they ever come to a point where they run out of courage to face it. Every challenge he faces we will teach and we will advise.

Because our Life is one with only a small space and limited. The time to do it and The things that make you happy. We just need to learn to handle the time at work or study if you are a student. Give yourself some time to make yourself happy.

I know that every day is special. But make the day even more special because it's for yourself.

Always remember, everything you do depends on you, so take it easy and give yourself time. Relax and enjoy with loved ones. Because once your body has fallen and your physical and mental health. You are the one who will struggle for yourself.

Gyalwa Dokhampa said, "If we try to hold on to so many things, both real and imaginary, thoughts and emotions, fears, worries, and expectations, then we begin to weigh our hearts down and make our minds restless."

• Sometimes there is a lot and you have to finish — do it without being pressured and stressed. To prevent physical and mental health and to avoid the weight of your feelings.

Continue to do everything that you know has good benefits for you and don't let it. Self in the things you thought you could do but deep inside you are just doing it in exchange for the material Things like money or anything else that you can use.

• Whether in you are a student Elementary, High School, or college — don't torture yourself with pure academics. Take time for your studies and also for yourself and thus, you can avoid stress and any other disease that can damage your mental health.

For example,

Your groupmate no longer appreciates your group project or thesis. Don't think that you have no value and that you don't contribute. If you think that you gave your best to do the responsibility. But don't put pressure on yourself in this matter instead is complacent in everything you do. Especially, if it is good. The important thing is that you do your duty and get your responsibility also you make yourself and others happy.

You didn't become an Honor student even though you didn't sleep because of studying?

Your attitude towards yourself should not be like that.

Don't push yourself if you know your knowledge is limited. You must do and follow what your heart says. Don't listen to what's around you. Do not listen to Worldly things. Because wet worldly things say is The judge and slander of others.

I Always remember that "Your every action has value and don't let it be tainted by any evil against yourself."

And I always say, "Make time for yourself, not for other people."

You dreamed only for you and your family, not for other people. If they tell you something that is not good and you know yourself that what you are doing is right. Continue. Don't listen to the bad words of others against you.

"Rest and enjoy. This is for you too."

Otherwise, carving out a little solitude can make a world of difference. So go ahead—give yourself a break.

It's that moment. I've finished checking homework, handing out backpacks, rummaging for baseball caps, finding car keys, bestowing kisses. The door slams shut for the last time, and I'm alone. Glad as I will be to have my family reconvene under this roof hours from now, I treasure this early-morning solitude, this small nest of time inhabited only by me. Soon I'll be up and out the door myself, but for these next sacred minutes, I will sit on the window seat, coffee in hand, and watch the sky.

Solitude is the soul's holiday, an opportunity to stop doing for others and to surprise and delight ourselves instead. When we are hungry, we get the signal right away, and we pay attention. Thirst is sneakier. By the time our bodies send us in search of water, we are already dehydrated. The same holds true in our thirst for solitude. By the time I begin to crave a vacation alone on a desert island, chances are my emotional well has already run dry. And so I've learned to create little islands of solitude in my daily life.

We need to have some downtime:

Many of us feel compelled to measure our success in terms of acquisition and accomplishment. But even women who are unwilling to buy into such a narrow definition of success may feel uncomfortable with the idea of claiming time just for themselves, with no agenda whatsoever. Often when we find ourselves with an empty hour, we spend that time doing chores or attending to our relationships.

If no one's around, we'll reach for the phone—or the TV remote or even the vacuum cleaner. We avoid ourselves because we're afraid of what we might find: a forlorn, flawed someone who's missing out on life's party. But solitude and isolation do not go hand in hand. We can retreat from the world for a time without being renounced by it.

Watching my 3-year-old neighbor play outside her house, I marvel at her contentment and self-sufficiency. She is completely absorbed as she plants twigs in an empty flowerpot and chatters to her doll. She's enjoying her own good company—a knack that, somewhere along the line, so many of us lose.

You get these things when alone:

If we are always focused on external stimulation, or even on our relationships, we miss opportunities for inner growth and renewal. Here's why it's important to insist on time alone:

We're more creative alone. Pulitzer prize–winning writer John Updike, author of 51 books, attributes his astonishing productivity to a schedule that honors empty time. "Ideally," he explains, "much of my day should be, in a strict sense, idle, for it is often in idle moments that real inspiration comes."

Solitude can cure what ails you. Several years ago, my best friend became concerned when her left arm and hand went numb. Her doctor proposed a series of tests to rule out a brain tumor, among other possibilities. But first, he suggested, she should spend three days alone, meditating and reflecting on her life. Although she was skeptical, she went to an empty cabin in the woods for the weekend and simply listened to her body, attuning herself to her inner wisdom. "I had been refusing to see that my marriage was really over," she explained afterward. "I had three children and no money, and I was terrified. But after that weekend alone, I knew the truth. And the numbness eventually went away."

In solitude, we see more clearly. "We live in an extremely externalized culture," Moore says. "We are constantly pulled outside ourselves—by other people, by the media, by the demands of daily life. Nothing in our culture or in our education teaches us how to go inward, how to steady the mind and calm our attention. As a consequence, we tend to devote very little time to the life of the soul, the life of the spirit." We need to balance the pace and intensity of modern life with periods of what poet May Sarton has called "open time, with no obligations except toward the inner world and what is going on there." Alone—in moments of prayer or meditation, or simply in stillness—we breathe more deeply, see more fully, hear more keenly. We notice more, and in the process, we return to what is sacred.

If you and your inner self have been out of touch, build a new relationship with someone who deserves attention—you.

Make a date with yourself. In her book The Right to Write, novelist, poet and lecturer Julia Cameron encourages her readers to treat themselves to a weekly "artist date"—a solo expedition to a place that interests them. That might be a fabric store, an art or natural history museum, a lunch-hour concert or a mountaintop. The point is not to accomplish something or even to learn something; it's simply to have fun—alone. When we romance our creative consciousness, she says, we have far more energy to bring to the work of life.

Stand firm. It's funny how easily time alone turns into something else—but remember, when it comes to solitude, two is a crowd. Not long ago, I was just about to set off for a solitary hike when a friend called. "Come along," I suggested. "Let's take a walk together." I spent the next hour listening to a blow-by-blow account of her mother-in-law's visit, and I also learned a lesson. Friends are priceless, but so is an opportunity to walk in silence through the forest.

Be clear about your needs. "I need some time for myself" sounds both desperate and vague. My husband's response to this timeworn refrain is "Yeah, so do I." I've learned to be clear and practical: "On Saturday afternoon, I will be gone from two o'clock to five o'clock. Will you be able to watch the kids?"

Support others in their efforts to take time off. If you claim Saturday afternoon, invite your partner to follow his or her own inclinations next time, while you hold down the fort. My husband is perfectly willing to grant me time for myself, as long as I encourage him to go off for a tennis game afterward. If you're single or can't trade with your partner, swap child-care duties with a friend.

Be on the lookout for stolen moments. There are empty spaces in almost every day, tiny nooks of time that you can inhabit in solitude. Try arriving ten minutes early for appointments, walking to work, taking your lunch outside to a park bench, making dinner without the phone pressed to one ear. Breathe deeply, be still, and check in with yourself, if only for a few minutes.

Practice doing nothing. Your need to replenish and play is as important as your need to get through the to-do list. "Just don't make too big a deal out of figuring out how to relax," Moore says. "If you make a program of it, you're back to busyness."