Chapter 2

Mother: Akon Aguer Diing Yai

Mother; Akon was born in the village called wunraak dated back to 1950s, and she

grew up in her riches family of Diing-Gop her grandfather, with her siblings such as

her big sister Abuk Aguer, Yai Aguer, Angui Aguer, Ahok Aguer, Garang Aguer and

Akon Aguer and her last sister, her third Brother Garang Aguer was killed in Swarm

(toc) Conflict, in his first day of return home from north Sudan; he came and found

out there were some of his relatives men who were preparing to go for fighting;

immediately; he join them without his family noticed’ where he arrive in war zone

within few minutes of fighting; he got speared that led to his dead in few hours later,

also her big brother Yai Aguer was captured by Gelweng arms soilders of (SPlA) in

1996 while he was cultivating in their farm in Wunraak, Abiem West, Aweil East. Yai

was captured during liberation of South Sudan, he then taken to Pariak Military camp

while preparing to be transfer to bilpam, Ethiopia; he died few days later in Pariak

Abeim Centre, he was captured with some of his relatives men and they were taken

to military Camp in pariak’ where he has died in the year 1996 and his battalion officer

failed to give full Confirmation that he has died; in which his family have no any

information about him until 2023, when eye witness finally revealed Yai died in

Pariak military camp before people were transferred to Ethiopia.

Akon herself attended cattle camp in her teenager during British colonial of Sudan,

she didn’t attends schools, in their time girls were not allowed to attend studies, girls

were kept in cattle camp until they grown up-to they reach their 20s, and that was

when they’re ready for married, where their parent asked dowries of about 50 or 60

cows for marring a single girl, at her 20s in 1970s; she got married to Garang Chuor

Loch from (Panguet Pan Loch Awin-bek) in yargot, Abiem West and she was taken

to her home in yargot were she gave births to her children such as, Garang Garang,

Agot Garang, Loch Garang, Chuor Garang, Dut Garang, Adhel Garang, and her

lastborn Deng Garang the author of this book.

She lived in her happily family until they had differences with her husband Garang

Chuor Loch, and that was when she went back to her family home and her husband

got married to his second wife until the time when her husband Garang Chuor himself

went to his farms in south-west of Aweil where he lived there for some year and

sometime he come home for visiting his children.

Later; in some years ahead five children had died due to causes of some diseases effected

people back in early ages when there were no enough hospitals, this cause her five of

her children died in their different years, and only two children were born later in

1990s, were girl and boy, she was very pleased to raise them in right way, so they could

be good people later in their life. She also got responsibility of her mother (Agel kuol Majok Yel) and her big sister’ until

Ageldit her finally days of departure in 2016 in her oldest age at 115 years old. here are

things Akon was good at:

She was Great-woman and known for her skill of songs listening back in the village,

she was a good Samaria and a dancer, she has senses of humor. She is now alive and

grateful for all she did to her two children in which her lastborn is now an

entrepreneur, digital marketer, Public-relation, Author and Philosopher.

She looks up’ and saying” I did enough to my children and finally I’m retired, it’s up

to my children to whether try earning their own living for I didn’t have enough energy

again.

The lastborn is grown and his sister got married long time ago in 2009; nobody will

blame me, she raised them already. Particularly anything that was likely to effect The

future of her two children, she was opened reminding them to kept awake with

modern way of life.

At that ages, she had been unable to sleep, rather than imagine and pray for brighter

future of her children, at midnight her brain bursting urgent in half-formed thoughts;

and she believe that one child specially the boy was heading to his brighter tomorrow;

but in the end she want to teach her son how to be nicest person to his big sister and

for all people around him later.

She was excited by how much work her son does to host himself when he was in exile,

after she maintain her high interest of wanting her son back when he completes his

studies’ an overwhelming to talks on phone calls, sending voice notes, to asked her

son if he’s getting ready to come back home; at least none of coming of her son has

effect in family

Her big sister who has been abandon by her son and her husband was having good

time with her at her home when her son failed to take care of his mother, Akon herself

took responsibility of her big sister who has mental disorder.

After few years later her big sister died of the same illness follow their mother (Ageldit)

that was when her sister’s son told Akon’s family that after his mother died, then he

has no longer related to Akon’s family. Meanwhile he phones calls Akon her son and

asked him for help; Akon her son who was in the exile meanwhile He told Akon’s

family in the village that they’re no longer relatives after his mother died.

Akon was surprised about how her big sister’s son divided family that half of family are

not related to him while another family member on aboard are related to him, asking

herself ‘is this my sister’s son okay’ the story was very surprised to hear’ in which Akon

took matter in her hands and asking her son on board to be opened about behaviors

of her sister’s son toward her family and for safety of her son in the exile.

Apparently she has warning receded in her mind as this was negativities, she didn’t ask

anyone to help her out of cruel behaving of her sister’s son; she treats it as negative and

it was not effect vicious cycle of her family.

In front of her, at least’ her son Deng, her daughter and grandchildren; she was very

pleased with all her presents and grateful for everything.

She invested on her son to become strongest child than any children in his generation,

so her son Dengdit will write their history later for next generation’s inspiration, she

used her tactics of making her son one in trillion and one of his own kind in his

generation. Akon raised her two children girl and boy who were born in 90s, with help of her

brother and her mother Agel kuol majok' Agel kuol was having everything at times,

she has many cows' her household was stronger ever at time, in which she raised

relatives kids and her grandchildren' Agel Kuol has involved herself in renaming her

grandkid lasborn Deng' because there were dispute over his name, when his mother

Akon rejected the name called Deng because the name seemed to his uncle Deng

Chuor Loch' who happened to have dislike on each other; Akon said" I don't want to

hear any name called Deng in my children' Ageldit response’ it is their names and you

can't denied it' he will be called Deng' a lot of maternal relatives came up with different

names included Bull names' in which they called him' behind the will of his clan ' after

he grows up at age 6 his grandmother Ageldit told the boy' your legal name' is Deng

Garang' never uses any name you heard from people' I love to see you back to your

clan and your home' you belong to Akanyjok Deng Arual' when you are grown' go

home and start rebuild your home since your father abandoned and left your mother

in my hands and spend time alone' your father paid so many cows to me when he took

your mother in which I will never turn blind eyes to his previous effort previously'

you belong in there' I was raising you' you may help when my house is down but go

home" there's still two of your uncles' Deng Chuor Loch and Chuor Chuor Loch are

still there' go and meet them" there a lot of relatives from your father his side in marial

Akanyjok' get to know them all like you did know relatives from your mother her

sides' if you experience misbehaving toward you from here' go home' that's where you

belong' Agel kuol did explained everything to her grandson Dengdit, after Dengdit

grew up he went meet all his relatives and uncles' one uncle Chuor Chuor Loch was

actually a coolest person' he went to him spend time together, telling him family

background and history. Dengdit claimed his legal name' after he is grow up and use

his legal name in all his IDs. Akon also has sense of raising her children with intention to make them wins in their

life, sometime she told them sit together advices them to supports each other; my

children you don’t need to hate each other so much’ you are siblings, you must know

that’ special you Dengdit stop being so bitter on your sister’ you two should not

practicing helping each other’ that how we were raised by your grandmother Ageldit’

you just two but we were many but we share everything together’ learn to stay

together and share foods, siblings are forever; friends are for time being, never prefer

your friends over your sibling this are two different, you do everything to sibling that’s

worth it, you do everything to your friends and left out your sibling that goes on

regrets.

Akon also had to advice some of her relatives how to raising successful kid, Wise, kid

with great sense, intelligent, smart, she told her friends when I raise Deng as a kid, I

advise him to stood firm in everything, I told him; you are free do everything but

never invited problems to yourself for I will never stand with you in a trouble you

caused, make what make sense, be hard working since your father is not there to get

your back when you are about to fall, you have to stand alone and do anything, wake

up earliest even if there’s nothing you are going to do, if you refused to let go of your

studies after all back drops’ you have to keep going, complete it, I can’t do anything

my son but I will always give you advice, I noticed when he bought his first bicycle at

his teenager, he bought his five goats at his teen, I understood he is very powerful and

he could overcome any difficulties based on how I trained him, he was also born with

god given wisdom, he sometime give me an advice’ I wondered where he learned all

he told me.